Hi there I am very worried/ do u think it will matter? Will my medical school contact him? Boss hates me now
Hi there
I want to be a doctor and I have applied for medicine.
Since this is my gap year In my application form , I wrote that i worked full time as a Nursing Assistant, which I did (from August to December part time since i had some personal problems, but when I filled in my application form i was working full time. Anyway, due to some problems with the boss, i think he doesn't want me to work for him any more. Since i have text him about 3 times before work that i coulnd't come since I had personal problems. (I don't know whether he has believed me, he thinks too much about money and doesn;t care).. anyway, 3 weeks ago he text me and said, why havent u turned up to work, and if i was going to turn up on sat.
I told him, that i didn't know what he was talking about since i had lost my phone and got no text from him. ( I did tell him that i had lost my phone 6 days before he called me). He doesn't believe me, anyway… i am worried about my medical school will they contact him?
i have texted my boss and told him i am really sorry and i am not like that, is just that i had to overcome some tough time, and i thanked him for allowing me to work, but he stills doesn;t answer. He hates me. anyway, yes, my referee has completed in the reference that medical school wanted in october, and that is all sent out. In fact I had a medical interview 3 days ago. However in my application form i also put the no and the address of my employer. Please tell me this is not gonna cause a problem. … will it?
They might contact him as medical schools place a lot of emphasis on relevant work experience. On the other hand, there is a good chance they might just take your word for it. Are you still working there? If so, it's not too late to make a better impression with the boss. Work hard and do your best. If you've left, or he's told you he doesn't want you back then write to him, explaining the personal problems and apologising for any inconvenience your absence caused, and saying how much you appreciate the experience you gained whist working there. In other words, try to soften him up a bit so he won't give a bad reference if asked. Keep a record of what kind of work you've done, what you liked or found hard and take this with you to your interview.
My advice to you would be to get some more work experience that you will enjoy more and be able to talk about more positively if and when you get an interview. You should also think carefully about the personal problems which have stopped you going to work. Training to be a doctor requires great stamina and commitment. Once you qualify, it is even harder work as a junior doctor. Do you feel you have the sort of personality which could cope with such stresses? You might find that a further year of good work experience would be beneficial before you decide on medicine.
Did you enjoy being a Nursing Assistant? Why do you want to be a doctor? Be honest with yourself before you commit yourself to a demanding career.
In future, don't send text messages to relay important information like not coming in to work. You should speak to the boss or deputy in person. In a job like nursing, it is very difficult for the boss, the whole team and the patients if a nurse doesn't turn up for work. You have to be reliable and responsible and you can't expect a good reference if you haven't shown these qualities.
I understand that personal problems can be overwhelming and you are very young (I assume you're not a mature student) so you have loads of time to develop the qualities of resiliance and reliability. Don't get stressed about what's happened. Take a deep breath, learn from your mistakes (i.e. not communicating with your boss properly re absence) and start afresh, either there or somewhere else. Often we learn more from experiences which don't quite work out than from those that do, so don't view it as a failure but as a very useful learning tool.
If you don't get a place at medical school, you can always try again next year (if you have the required straight As at A level) or you can start thinking about another career which might suit you more. Look at the UCAS website for ideas about courses, and on Connexions and Prospects websites for info re careers. The website http://www.wanttobeadoctor.co.uk/main.php is also very useful and there are others which you'll find if you google 'getting into medical school'
Hope this helps a bit. Don't worry and good luck!
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January 6th, 2009 at 11:58 pm
what's the point
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January 7th, 2009 at 12:15 am
he will only be contacted if you put him down for a reference,and even if he did,by law now no past employer is allowed to give a bad reference,or be too opinionated,so stop worrying,you could always explain yourself should that matter arise,good luck with wanting to be a doctor,we need them xx
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January 7th, 2009 at 12:27 am
Sorry, but I think you are the one who has been at fault here.
Your boss won't be thinking about money, at the end of the day he needs a full work force.
Obviously I don't know your personal problems, but in most jobs you have to cope with them and still turn up for work.
Even if you parents die (and I cannot think of a much worse personal problem), you are usually only allowed 2 days off in most employments.
Also, losing a phone is no excuse for not keeping your boss informed of you ability to work.
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Manager for many years, never had a leaver in my employment either.
January 7th, 2009 at 1:09 am
well did you put him down as a reference?
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January 7th, 2009 at 1:25 am
They might contact him as medical schools place a lot of emphasis on relevant work experience. On the other hand, there is a good chance they might just take your word for it. Are you still working there? If so, it's not too late to make a better impression with the boss. Work hard and do your best. If you've left, or he's told you he doesn't want you back then write to him, explaining the personal problems and apologising for any inconvenience your absence caused, and saying how much you appreciate the experience you gained whist working there. In other words, try to soften him up a bit so he won't give a bad reference if asked. Keep a record of what kind of work you've done, what you liked or found hard and take this with you to your interview.
My advice to you would be to get some more work experience that you will enjoy more and be able to talk about more positively if and when you get an interview. You should also think carefully about the personal problems which have stopped you going to work. Training to be a doctor requires great stamina and commitment. Once you qualify, it is even harder work as a junior doctor. Do you feel you have the sort of personality which could cope with such stresses? You might find that a further year of good work experience would be beneficial before you decide on medicine.
Did you enjoy being a Nursing Assistant? Why do you want to be a doctor? Be honest with yourself before you commit yourself to a demanding career.
In future, don't send text messages to relay important information like not coming in to work. You should speak to the boss or deputy in person. In a job like nursing, it is very difficult for the boss, the whole team and the patients if a nurse doesn't turn up for work. You have to be reliable and responsible and you can't expect a good reference if you haven't shown these qualities.
I understand that personal problems can be overwhelming and you are very young (I assume you're not a mature student) so you have loads of time to develop the qualities of resiliance and reliability. Don't get stressed about what's happened. Take a deep breath, learn from your mistakes (i.e. not communicating with your boss properly re absence) and start afresh, either there or somewhere else. Often we learn more from experiences which don't quite work out than from those that do, so don't view it as a failure but as a very useful learning tool.
If you don't get a place at medical school, you can always try again next year (if you have the required straight As at A level) or you can start thinking about another career which might suit you more. Look at the UCAS website for ideas about courses, and on Connexions and Prospects websites for info re careers. The website http://www.wanttobeadoctor.co.uk/main.php is also very useful and there are others which you'll find if you google 'getting into medical school'
Hope this helps a bit. Don't worry and good luck!
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http://www.prospects.ac.uk/cms/ShowPage/Home_page/Explore_types_of_jobs/p!elmjX – 35k -
http://www.connexions-direct.com/ – 16k – Cached – Similar pages
January 7th, 2009 at 1:34 am
Medical schools don't contact references. When you apply for medical school you ask your references to send in a letter of recommendation or have them complete a form as part of your application. Not sure when your deadlines for admission are but for most medical schools the decisions may have already been made so even if your boss contacted them it probably wouldn't matter.
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January 7th, 2009 at 1:42 am
Just be honest !
We don't all get along with everyone all the time. Be honest about the personality clash if it comes up but don't dwell on it or bring it up yourself.
Sometimes people hate us because they are jealous of us. An aspirant medical student doesn't go down well with nurses, male or female. I know how hospital staff are about interns and medical students. Professional jealousy!
Cite that as the reason.
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